I was listening to a Conversation with Jeffrey R. and Patricia Holland, and Sheri Dew quoted one of their sons as saying:
"Mom and dad are both very strong individuals; however, my mother gives her full, unreserved allegiance to my father's priesthood leadership and my father constantly turns to my mother for counsel and insight."
Sister Holland goes on to compare the marriage relationship to a business where someone ultimately makes a final decision. However, that person pulls in the "greatest minds" to help him/her make that decision beforehand. Sister Holland is quite the example in if her husband does what God wants him to, she will surely support.