the Internet.
I put this on this blog because it really relates to motherhood for me.
We all need a social network and a way to contribute and feel useful. I think that's why a lot of women want to get out of the house and get a job or volunteer or whatever. For some reason, we can't seem to feel totally satisfied "just" staying at home. I wish I could, but either I'm lacking the coping skills to feel completely useful and social by staying home all the time, or I'm too influenced by the feminists, or maybe there is something to getting out of the house.
Whatever the reason, I think the Internet gives me a way to feel fulfilled. I have a lovely social network (sadly not all that personal much of the time), and I can contribute things I learn on fun little blogs. It's right here in my own home, whenever I want it.
The best part is, I can do it as much or as little as I want. If the kids or house or husband or other people need me, I don't have deadlines, so I don't have to put the people off. The Internet is still there waiting for me when I want to come back.
The trick is, though, not to let it overtake my life. It's all about balance, isn't it? If I'm sewing or blogging or socializing or cooking, all these good things can still cause me to neglect my family just as working outside the home can.
I think Cokie Roberts was onto something when she wondered in We Are Our Mothers' Daughters if the Internet might provide women with a social network that they would typically get at a job. I'm so glad it does!
