The other day I was playing on the floor with my 5 year old daughter. All of a sudden, I had a feeling I've never experienced before: I actually WANTED to be playing with her more than doing anything else. Usually I play with the kids because I know I should; it's my duty -- my parental obligation. I spend so much of my time dreaming about the things I can do at the end of the day after the kids go to bed.
Now, obviously you can guess I'm a bit embarrassed about this admission, but I'm sure I'm not the first to feel this way. I just can't believe it took me so long to figure this out! What I learned is important: There are some women who WANT to be with their children, not merely out of duty.
A friend, Michelle, recently suggested that perhaps having a "mother heart" is a spiritual gift. In that case, since I know I can pray for spiritual gifts, I think I will be a much better, happier, and more content mother if I can better develop that "mother heart."
When we don't call on the powers of heaven to help us enjoy our duties as mothers, we are living below our privilege. We could really be more happy about this aspect of our lives!
Additionally, I believe this increases my respect for women who have a lot of children. Years ago I got over my criticisms toward those who (responsibly) have very large families, but now I understand WHY they do it: they (well, some of them) probably love it just as some of us love history, or sewing, or politics, or blogging, or whatever. How awesome that they love their job!
Lastly, a phrase my husband sometimes says is, "if you're not having fun, you must not be doing it right." Now why haven't we fully grasped this before in regards to our family? Having fun as a family brings those magic moments that make parenting all worth it.
Feel free to leave ideas of things you do to create magic moments in your family!